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Tipping Over: A Plea

2014.December.3

I whine sometimes because I feel like a lot of the people who said they’d be around don’t feel like they have been. It’s hard, because I have a lot going on in my life.

But on good days, when I have perspective, I see that they have a lot going on in their lives, too. I’m not sure I know a single person who hasn’t experienced the kind of life-changing events that usually come about once a decade some time(s) in the last 24 months (more along the lines of death and divorce than birth and marriage)

After enough of these good days, I started to wonder if there wasn’t something happening on some sort of communal level… How big a community? I don’t know. Young, online, queer-friendly polyamours and their families? Much of this nation? Most of the world, or at least the human species?

I really can’t tell. What I can tell, I lack the vocabulary to say eloquently, so I just want to say it awkwardly: I think some portion of society is at some sort of tipping point…

…whether the winds of political change are building to hurricane velocities
…or there have finally just become too many of us pontificating apes on this big wet rock
…or some collective consciousness is stirring in a new and anxious manner

(if you even believe in any of these things)

…or maybe things have always been this way and it’s affecting more of us (the chickens of privilege coming home to roost?)
…or maybe it’s always been this way and more of us are noticing (though observation does change the observed)
…or maybe there is no trend at all, except that it helps fools like me get through their days better to believe in such trends (which imply patterns, which imply boundaries, which imply finity)…

Frankly, I don’t think the answer matters right now.

What does matter for me is recognizing that I can’t be everything to everyone; yet even in trying times, I can be something to someone, let someone be something to me, and I can make such choices with boundless love and determination.

If you feel like the universe is being an asshole to you of late, and it means pulling away from me and/or others, I want to tell you that it’s okay: you’re not alone.

Just don’t forget to let SOMEONE be close, let SOMEONE be there for you, and in whatever capacity you are able, be there for SOMEONE ELSE, too. Whatever lay ahead, we’re going to need each other.

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